I'm super bored now, so i shall just blog about what me and yongqing on our long walk home yesterday...

Well, I'm not sure how we got onto the topic... i guess it started when i vaguely said than I dont like to share with people my trouble. if you have notice. i usually do not discuss my problems indepth with anyone. I will just tell vaguely about my problem. Anyway, i guess it was a wrong move. Because after that , he kept rattling on about some "DA DAO LI". Yawn...In the middle of the night....Well, I am not one to just accept what people ask me to do. Anyway...I started bickering with him that...actually a problem is how you perceive it sometimes. The same kind of matter....one may see it as a problem while the other may see it in a different light. Solutions given by friends are just general solutions which we , ourselves are able to think of. Usually , when people ask for opinions on how to solve the problem, they themselves, would already have a set of solution deep in their heart. What they really need are confirmation of their decisions to make them feel better. Take this analogy for example, usually when people go shopping and see something they like, they would already make up their mind to buy it. But they will still ask their friends for opinions to double confirm their choice. For me, when i decided to do on the solution, I will not regret my choice. Even if i do, i deserve it coz I was the one who had thought of the solution.

As a psychology major, i know that the more you relate some unhappiness, the more it will be encoded in your long term memory. In the long run, it means that you will be more unhappy since you will keep brooding over the problem.

Thirdly, the reason which i Dont like to share is because i'm quite forgetful. I'm one who usually forget unhappy things quite easily. I guess most would be irrational when one is angered or hurt. Therefore, one may sprout hurtful things about the other party which one would regret when one cool down. Thus , i feel that it is better to keep one's trouble to oneself. On one hand, you are able to prevent yourself from saying things which can harm people. On the other hand , it will prevent the people who are listening to your problems to spread any kind of rumours about what you have said about the other party. ( It has happened to me once.. so i m ultra careful now)

But then , all these which I said may be applicable to me. However , different people have different personalities, and I guess there is no one algorithm which fits all. Some people are the more "sharing" kind while some are the more "isolated" kind like me...Whatever it is. as long as you like your way of handling problem, Just Do It Your Way...